Archive | November 2012

Oy! The Competition!

So the other day my mother called.  This doesn’t happen often, and it’s even less often that I actually pick up when she calls (more on our strained relationship another day).  I happened to pick up this time.  Miss P was on her play mat in the living room floor and I was preparing dinner in the kitchen.

The painting is described thus: "Ludwig v...

The painting is described thus: “Ludwig van Beethoven was recognised as a child prodigy. He worked at the age of 13 as organist, pianist/harpsichordist and violist at the court in Bonn, and had published three early piano sonatas. This portrait in oils is the earliest authenticated likeness of Beethoven.” (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“How is my granddaughter?” she asked.

“She’s fine. Playing on the floor right now.”

“Is she rolling over yet?”

“Nope, not yet.  She’s getting close though.”

“Not yet???”

“No, Mom.  She’s only 3 and a half months old.”

“Well, you were rolling over just before you turned 3 months old!”

I snorted.  “It’s not a race, Mom.  All the parenting websites say it will happen around 4 months or so.  She’ll do it when she’s damn good and ready.”

I can’t seem to escape the competitive nature of motherhood.  My daughter is even in competition with the infant me!

She’s coming up on 4 months old and she gets closer and closer every day.  She may make it before that 4 month “deadline” or she may not.  Either way she’s going to be fine.

On our way out of town for Thanksgiving we stopped at a restaurant for lunch, and I caught Miss P staring at the ketchup bottle on the table and moving her mouth like she was trying to sound out the words.  So apparently my baby can already read.

Top that, Mom.

 

Revelations

My daughter is both a keeper and a frustrating  child to raise.  I’m referring, of course, to her sleep habits.

She started sleeping through the night (by most parenting groups definition) when she was just 4 weeks old, sleeping 5-6 hours at a stretch, then getting up to eat and going back down for a few hours.  At about 9 weeks she started truly sleeping through the night, a 10+ hour stretch, followed by a bottle and then a nap of 2.5 hours or so.  I loved it.

However, I was reading that most people’s babies were also sleeping quite a bit during the day – 2-3 naps in excess of 2 hours.  I wasn’t getting that from her.  She was content to catnap – 1o minutes here, 20 minutes there, no rhyme or reason, and absolutely no putting her down.

Bronze statue of Eros sleeping, 3rd century BC...

Bronze statue of Eros sleeping, 3rd century BC–early 1st century AD (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’ll admit we haven’t been on much of a schedule.  Life has been a little weird the last few weeks, and we’ve just been flying by the seat of our pants around here.

For Thanksgiving week, I caught a ride from my brother and his family over to my dad’s.  Hubby stayed behind to work and would be joining us on Wednesday night.  It was nice to see family, but the lack of regular chores or obligations allowed for a lot of one on one time with baby girl, and revealed something to me: a nap schedule.

She’s good with being awake for about 2 or 2.5 hours, and then she needs a nap.  Usually it’s a short nap, only 30 minutes or so, but it’s still a nap and it’s on a regular basis.  I learned to predict when she would start getting sleepy, and then begin to facilitate naptime by providing a bottle and a quiet place to rest.

Also? I can lay her down now!  In fact, as I type this she is laying on the bed beside me napping peacefully.

I cannot tell you how this changes my life.

So the trick is not what the parenting books say (“They should be napping at 10, 2, 5 and then to bed at 8” or whatever), but to find your baby’s natural rhythm and make it work for you.  We’ve been home since Sunday and so far it’s working out well for us.